Category: Parenting

Cloud-watchers!

Here is a journal entry from one of my mother and son devotional times with Tim when he was six years old. I thought it  was an appropriate one to share after celebrating Easter this week.

After he said this, he was taken up before their very eyes, and a cloud hid him from their sight. They were looking intently up into the sky as he was going, when suddenly two men dressed in white stood beside them. “Men of Galilee,” they said, “why do you stand here looking into the sky? This same Jesus, who has been taken from you into heaven, will come back in the same way you have seen him go into heaven.  Acts 1:9-11 (NIV)

Timmy: Mommy, when will Jesus come back?

Mommy: I don’t know, but He is coming back someday.

Timmy: Well, I’m going to keep looking in the clouds.

Mommy: Yes, and I will too.

Timmy’s commitment to watch the clouds is a reminder that we need to live our lives with a hope that says, “My Savior is coming.” It is a wonderful anticipation that can motivate us to pray more, to rejoice and to keep living godly lives. In spite of our circumstances we need to remember to go outside from time to time and watch those clouds. So join Timmy and me as we are now cloud-watchers waiting for the Savior to return.

A Mom’s Prayer for Help

My boys back in 2003.

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I have three sons. They are now grown, and they love the Lord. I have always sought to pray for them faithfully and for myself as their mom. I got involved in Moms In Prayer International which helped guide me in my prayers for them. Here is a page from one of my prayer journals.

February 20, 2003

Dear Lord,

I confess I have blown it in the past. I know I have not been readily available. I know I have not been the witness of Christ to them. Please forgive me. I pray that you make me a godly mother once again. I pray that you make me wise in your word and ready to impart it upon my sons for their spiritual growth.

Help me not to forget to pray for them and with them.
Help me to always bring you into our conversations and disagreements.
Help me to train them up in righteousness.
Help me to truly enjoy them.
Help me to enjoy all their jokes and their joys of the day.
Help me to laugh and get carried away by all their happenings.
Help me to be an anchor and a rock for them.
Help me to be able to impart to them godly counsel.
Help me to truly dedicate myself completely to their spiritual growth.
Help me to make them my priority.
Help me not to lose my temper.
Help me not to mistreat them.
Help me to be filled with wisdom and faithful instruction for them.
Help me not to be selfish but to do my job as a mother and listen. (This is hard when they interrupt.)
Help me to raise them as godly men.
Help me to discern when they are truly disrespectful.
Help me to know how to discipline them and train them.
Help me to know how to deal with all their squabbles.
Help me to know how to pass on my faith filled with passion for God Almighty.
Help me to pass on a heart of servanthood.

Lord, strengthen me as their mother and enable me to complete this task until the day they leave our home. Thank you for giving me these boys. The challenge is great. Lord, I pray for your grace.

The task of raising children is hard.  As moms we have to allow ourselves lots of grace. The task is overwhelming and we can really beat ourselves up. “Did I do something wrong?  Did I do something to mess them up from ever receiving Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior?”  But we moms need to submit ourselves unto God daily. Be the women he has called us to be first.  And faithfully entrust the lives of our children to the Lord. We only have them for a short season, and then they are gone. Let’s persevere and do the job of raising a godly generation while we can.  Pray for their souls faithfully.  “I have set the Lord always before me. Because he is at my right hand I will never be shaken.” (Psalm 16:8)

Book Recommendation: This is a great read.  It is a  little old fashioned, but it contains wonderful inspiration on Raising Your Child to Love God (by Andrew Murray).

 

© Copyright 2015 by Rosi Fowler

 

 

Mrs. C, Let Me Tell You About My Son

Years ago shortly after my soon-to-be husband and I announced our engagement, my soon to be mother-in-law wrote a letter to my mom. Having not yet met each other, she introduced herself in the letter and gave my mom assurances of her son’s character. It was a lovely letter.

Twenty-five years later my son has announced his engagement to his college sweetheart. And it is my turn to tell my son’s future mother-in-law a little bit about my son.SnRWeddingDay

Dear Mrs. C,

I just wanted to let you know how thrilled my husband and I are on this engagement. We love our son. His life was entrusted to us by the Lord. The Lord granted our son to us as part of our prayers to raise a godly generation unto him. Hannah said in 1 Samuel 1:27, “I prayed for this child.” And so our son will leave our home with a legacy of prayers going before him.

We raised our son in a home where both his mom and dad have loved Jesus and have sought to live their lives in service to Him. We read good books and played games. We laughed a lot at the dinner table.

We dedicated our son at three months. We took the charge seriously of committing ourselves to prayer for his salvation. We prayed continually for wisdom in our parenting of him. We also prayed for the woman that was to be his wife.

We read to him God’s Word faithfully. We had many nights of family devotion, worship and prayer. We faithfully brought him to church. We taught him the importance of commitment to church and service.

We have sought to understand our son’s interests and gifts. We have tried to nurture him and provide encouragement and support to help him be exactly who God made him to be. We have prayed that his life would make a difference for the Kingdom of God.

We have also prayed that he would grow to be strong in faith and a man after God’s own heart always walking in integrity. We have prayed that he would be a godly man able to lead his own family and raise another godly generation for the Lord.

We have seen that God has been good and faithful to answer all our prayers for our son throughout all these years. We are grateful for his wise choice in your daughter. It is a blessing to finally meet the woman that we have been praying for our son after all these years.

 

 

 

Her Children Arise and Call Her Blessed

This is one of the nicest readings I have read on Mother’s Day from the Desiring God blog. It is very encouraging for any mom seeking to raise her children in the Lord.

Her Children Arise and Call Her Blessed – Mother’s Day Meditation
by David Mathis

Mother’s Day is a sweet opportunity for Christians to celebrate one of God’s most significant means of his common and redeeming grace.

For most, there’s some bitter flavor somewhere. We live in a fallen world. All mothers are sinful — even Jesus’s own mother knew well her need for a Savior (Luke 1:47) and for God’s mercy (Luke 1:50). Whether your own mother monumentally failed you, or you’re a mother…Continue reading.

Mothering in the Internet Age

Here is an article from The Gospel Coalition blog encouraging young moms to seek guidance from older women.

Our mothers and grandmothers relied on their pediatricians to answer their parenting questions. Their mothers relied upon the experience of their own mothers and other older women. Now, internet research has become an integral part of mothering. Need to know why your child wets the bed? Want a natural remedy for diaper rash? Want the latest research on delaying vaccinations?  Continue reading.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Claiming My Son’s Room

My firstborn son moved out of the house, and now he is on his own in a different state, working and living in his own apartment. He cleaned out his room and packed up all his belongings – emptying his closet, dresser, bookshelves and his desk – leaving only behind some of his childhood paraphernalia. Due to a prior commitment, I was not able to be home the day he left. So I did not watch him pack up his car and drive away. I was crying enough from a distance knowing he was leaving at that exact hour.

My husband called and told me how hard it was for him to watch our firstborn leave. I told him to please shut the door to our son’s bedroom because I did not want to see an empty room when I got back. For weeks the bedroom door stayed shut. I couldn’t bear to open the door and see an empty room where only small remnants of my son’s life remained.

Fast forward a month later and I finally decided to open the door to my son’s room. I took a deep breath and steadied myself. I told myself that I was not going to cry. It is just a room with four walls, and it is attached to our home, and I need to go into the room and see what needs to be cleaned. I opened the knob quickly, took a quick survey and shut the door.

In the time that followed it got easier to go in and out of his bedroom. I did break down a couple of times, but it wasn’t too bad. I had to tell myself repeatedly, and still do, that he is not my little boy anymore. He is a man.

Six months later I was feeling frustrated that I couldn’t find privacy to read my Bible, write and pray. There didn’t seem to be any room in the house where I could shut the world out for just an hour to pray and think and write.  No room seemed cozy enough for me to sit with my journal. I wanted a study. Then it dawned on me. What about my son’s room? It has a desk, and there is a door that I can shut. Can I really claim my son’s room to make it a study for me?

I first started using the room to have my quiet time and devotions. Then as I grew more comfortable using the room, I finally gave myself the freedom to do it. I gave myself permission to claim my son’s room and make it my study. So I transferred all my journals, notebooks and books. I brought over my guitar too. I even have a place for my coffee mug each morning.

It has been freeing to be able to move on. I have two more sons. One is in college, and the other is a senior graduating from homeschool at the end of this year. People have asked me, “What are you going to do with yourself when your youngest graduates this year?”

My experience with my firstborn has given me a glimpse that I can in fact move on. I can begin to explore and allow to blossom passions that have been sitting dormant during all my wonderful happy stay-at-home, homeschooling mom years. My empty nest is not too far away, and I know I will experience sorrow. But at the same I am excited that I can in fact make plans for my new self to come. My life is not over, only just beginning a new stage, and I am looking forward to it.

 

The “Good Enough” Mom from ThrivingFamily.com

Here is a nice soothing article for all us wanna-be “Supermoms” from ThrivingFamily.com written by Dr. Juli Slattery:

The “Good Enough” Mom

by Dr. Juli Slattery

My son Andrew begged me to come on his field trip and be a parent driver. I calculated that I could work a half day before joining my son at the school, and this would be one of those few times I could feel like “supermom” … Click here to read the rest.